Weinholds’ Self-Help Tools For Healing The Mindbody

We find many people who don’t know why their life is not working for them. They have no idea that their unrecognized and unhealed developmental shocks, traumas and stresses from childhood are behind their unsuccessful attempts to cope with their life.

Since many developmental shocks, traumas and stresses are related to the neglect of their basic needs or unskilled attempts to meet them, they easily forget about these early childhood relational experiences. Unfortunately, this violates the basic learning style of human beings, which is to repeat something over and over again until it is understood and integrated in our mindbody.

When we are in contact with a person or situation that reminds us in some subconscious way of the original shocking, traumatic or stressful early childhood experience we get “triggered” and are flooded with unhealed aspects (including the unwanted feelings) of that earlier experience. Whatever defenses we create to help us cope with these reenactments of the earlier shock, trauma or stressor, they usually do not help us better understand the source of the problem or why it is reoccurring in your life.

As a result, many people have trouble sustaining relationships particularly when they get to a deeper level of intimacy and therefore go through a series of unsuccessful primary relationships.  They also suffer from numerous addictions and can’t seem the break free of them. They feel compelled to work all the time or have trouble holding on to a job. These people often have trouble keeping their relationship agreements and are at the mercy of people and situations that trigger huge emotional responses in them. They feel victimized by others and cycle through negative feelings about themselves and others they know. Many of these people just need to know what the root cause of all their problems is and then they can begin to take steps to improve their lives.

Over the years we have created many self-help tools for people who once they better understand the causes of their problems are able then to do their own work and don’t need to pay a body worker or therapist to do it for them. Don’t get us wrong; we have used body workers and therapists over the years when we didn’t think we had the tools to cope with the problem or issue we were facing. Sometimes we could work through the psychotherapy part ourselves, but then needed a skilled body worker to help integrate into our body what we had learned mentally. Sometimes we have worked though and issue or problem with our body worker and then used our psychotherapy tools to integrate what our body had learned.

On this web site we will share from time to time some of the self-help tools that we found that will help you better understand the root causes of your problems.  In addition, we will include those that have worked the best with us in helping to heal the wounds or correct the beliefs that are connected to their core problems. What we have found is that most often the problem is around learning how to better understand and regulate your emotions. For example, we know that all addictions are an attempt to self-medicate and avoid certain unwanted feelings.

Once people learn how to understand, process and regulate their feelings the need to self-medicate them diminishes.

Below is a chart showing some of the self-help tools that we will be sharing on this website in future posts. If you don’t see one posted on the site that you would like to know about, you can always contact us and request that we post it on this website.

In addition, most of these self-help tools are published in our recent books. You can find them by clicking on the titles:  Breaking Free of The Co-dependency Trap, The Flight From Intimacy, Breaking Family Patterns, Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way and our latest book, Healing Developmental Trauma will be available in February. All these books are available for sale at our online store and most of them can be found at brick and mortar bookstores or other online booksellers. 

Click to Download Weinholds' Self-Help Tools for Healing the Mindbody.