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PREVENTING YOUTH & FAMILY VIOLENCE

You can listen to Barry’s recent interview on The Tank Spencer Show at WWNC in Asheville, NC about his work over the past 15 years on the prevention of youth and family violence. The hour-long interview was played on all six of the Asheville radio stations owned by Clear Channel Radio.

You’ll hear Barry talk about how he developed CICRCL-sponsored youth and family violence prevention programs in a number of U. S. communities and schools.  These programs include the Kindness Campaign, a community-based violence prevention program utilized in over 13 U. S. cities and the Kind and Safe Schools Initiative, a school-based violence prevention program that has been utilized in over 700 schools.

 He also discusses the unique strategies in his approach that emphasizes mobilize people to do the opposite of violence-- or acts of kindness. He also cites some of the research results that show how effective this approach can be in preventing youth and family violence. Click here to listen to his interview. 

TIME-IN TECHNIQUES FOR CHILDREN

Janae B. Weinhold, Ph.D. 

When children show signs of emotional dysregulation, they really need the help of caring adults to calm and quiet themselves. Common symptoms of emotional upset in young children include hitting, crying, throwing, withdrawing, bullying and oppositional behaviors. The most important thing to remember in these situations is that emotionally upset children have some problem that they are not able to resolve within themselves. They need adults to both help them identify the problem and to help them fix it. In this context, the idea of “discipline” is not a useful or helpful place from which to begin. A more effective approach begins with an attitude of “what does this child need and how can I help meet this need?” 

The first step in helping a young child return to calm, harmonious behavior is supporting them both emotionally and energetically. Adults who are bonded to a child are the most effective in doing this, as children will attune only to adult caregivers who they trust will meet their needs. The most effective tool for reestablishing this connection is known as time-in. This involves placing children physically on or near to an adult for a period of time and providing calming words and sounds, empathetic facial signals, touch and firm but loving limits. 

To download a four-page .pdf file describing age-appropriate Time-In techniques to use with children, click here.

To watch a movie of Janae's Smart Start Conference PowerPoint presentation, Promoting Positive Mental Health in Children, click here. (it takes a bit to load up, so be patient)

Interview with Dr. Lara Honos-Webb - Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way

This 23 minute interview focuses on Barry and Janae's newly released and revised edition of Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way.

 Lara is an excellent interviewer (she actually read the book before the interview!) and really helped us speak to the heart of our book. She interviewed us as part of her "Sweet Spot" show again (this was our third time). 

Listen to the podcast here.

Barry & Janae Interviewed on Health Matters Radio by Adam Lehman

Adam Lehman is an bioenergetic bodyworker and former engineer-producter who also conducts interviews on the Health Matters radio show at KSVY 91.3 in Sonoma, California. In this 50 minute interview with Barry and Janae, they talk about Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way. You can listen to this podcast, here.

THOUGHTS ON BUILDING A NEW CIVILIZATION

Humanity, Earth, our solar system and maybe all of creation are in the midst of a Great Shift. Long prophesied by the Mayans and other indigenous peoples, the alignment of our Sun and Solar System with Galactic Center around 2012 is triggering both the breakdown of old structures and systems and the breakthrough of new ones. On one hand, the beam of energy being transmitted to us from Galactic Center is upgrading our DNA, rewiring our brains and advancing our consciousness in ways that are causing breakthroughs in all aspects of our lives. Simultaneously, this same energy is triggering the breakdown of outdated human structures.

Social breakdown is not caused by a specific disaster, but arises out of the actions of individual people who are experience traumatic breakdowns related to social, economic and political crises. In October 2008 group of Kuwaiti equity traders marched on the emir’s office to demand the closing of the stock exchange to stem losses. A similar thing happened in Greece in late 2008 when riots sparked by the police shooting of a teenager, became tinged with economic dissension. In February 2009 riots in Ireland threatened to close the banks. The economic collapse of Iceland may presage civil disruptions there, as job losses multiply and credit bills come due.

During times of social crisis even governments can be stressed beyond their breaking-point. The chaos that ensued in New Orleans in the absence of an effective federal response in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina is one such example in this country. In such troubled times, people are forced to fend for themselves and their families, by any means necessary. Reports from New Orleans about the breakdown of the civil society and the implementation of martial law clearly revealed that the psyche of Americans may be more fragile than anticipated.

Ecologically, Earth is experiencing major extinction events in its ecosystem, such as the disappearance of many amphibian species due to the discovery of immense dead zones in the Gulf of Mexico. This is happening well before scientists anticipated, validating that we are in the midst of the long prophesied shift of 2012.

At the same time, there are signs of breakthrough and awaking appearing at an even more incredible rate, including new forms of energy—hydrogen, magnetic and plasma—and humanity’s ability to use catastrophic events such as 9/11, Hurricane Katrina and economic instability to open individual’s hearts. Call it restructuring, or rewiring or illumination— many people are reporting feeling tired, having migrane headaches and flu-like symptoms, electrical sensations in their limbs and spine and increased sensitivity to energy and phenomena such as sunspots.

We believe that Earth and humanity are poised at the brink of a quantum leap in evolution. This event can be experienced as truly wonderful for those who have prepared. Those who are not prepared may experience it quite differently.

Catastrophes are often the result of failing to prepare for an anticipated event.The impact of Hurricane Katrina on New Orleans is an excellent example. Local, state and national officials were all aware that Lake Ponchartrain levees were at risk if exposed to tidal surges from a hurricane.

The FBI, which began warning of an "epidemic" of mortgage fraud in September 2004, also knew that lenders were initiating 80% of these frauds.¹ Their report of epidemic of mortgage control fraud came at such an early point that the financial crisis could have been averted had the Bush administration acted with even minimal competence. To learn about the sequence of events that led to the US economic crisis (that has now spread to global proportions), see the documentary, House of Cards. Americans who were caught up in the frenzy of both the housing bubble and the financial bubble were totally unprepared to cope with the fallout of being overly indebted in a declining economy.

The same can be about preparedness for other kinds of potential disasters. While it is not possible to prevent hurricanes and other environmental events associated with climactic changes, it is possible to prepare for them.

The consequences of a lack of preparedness for anticipated events are a wake-up call indicating the need for another kind of preparedness: shifts in the collective consciousness of humanity. The cosmic events now being triggered by the waves of energy from Galactic Center are changing not only the physical structure of Earth, but the consciousness of humanity. These interlocking phenomena demonstrate the need to begin building the structures for a new civilization.

The dimensional veils have been thinning during the past 50 years, creating a new opening of the Earth to extraterrestrial visitors. Soon we all will be experiencing a reunion with our star brothers and sisters that will require skills in Exopolitics—the establishment of formal diplomatic relations with extraterrestrial civilizations. While there still may be some chaos due to both personal and Earth changes, it may not be as intense if people prepare for them both physically and spiritually. 

Visioning A New Civilization

While part of the challenge in building a new civilization must focus on staying calm and safe during rapid social, economic, political and climate-related changes, the real challenge is spiritual: how do we individually and collectively respond to these changes with kindness and compassion? As the old breaks down, how do we build new social, economic, political and spiritual structures that are in alignment with this new consciousness? Those who understand the complexity of the changes upon us recognize that what appears to be death and the devastation may actually be first step in the birth of new social, economic, political and religious structures.

There are many advanced souls present on Earth who have incarnated specifically to facilitate this higher dimensional shift. They, particularly the children, feel called to build a kinder and more compassionate world that reunites us with the Earth. These souls are working to birth their new consciousness, which will change their fundamental relationship with the Earth and each other during the time of this dimensional shift.

Children As the Future

Conscious conception, non-violent birthing and enlightened child-rearing practices are critical steps in building a civilization that is able to manifest its God-given potential. We believe that children conceived, birthed and parented in a trauma-free environment become healthy, intelligent, productive and joy-filled people who retain their multidimensional capabilities. The children have he capacity to create much brighter and lighter world than the one currently breaking down.

In the early development of children, around the age of three to four years, they have a natural desire to bond with the Earth.  During this period, they love walking barefoot in the grass and dirt and examining insects and the small life that lives there. This is also the ideal time to introduce them to gardening, growing things and interacting with animals. Here they learn to respect life and to learn cause-and-effect thinking. As children mature they also have a strong desire to participate in family and community life, particularly the discussion of life’s big questions involving values, moral quandaries and decision making; issues of justice and expressing respect, empathy and compassion.

As children get older they are ready to experience opportunities to be of service, which help them learn the connections between spirituality, ethical interpersonal interactions and social activism. These opportunities expose them to the practice of philosophies based on doing good deeds and loving acts of kindness.

Reconnecting With the Earth

Energetic exchanges of unconditional love between humans and between humans and animals, plants, minerals, and the Earth create shared experiences of deep resonance. Most people recognize that spending time in Nature has a therapeutic effect on their mood, their nervous system and their outlook. Outdoors activities such as hiking, gardening, biking, skiing, running, fishing help ground our bodies and quiet our minds. Quiet activities such as sitting in nature, listening to birds, watching the clouds move, star-gazing, full-moon meditations also help us attune with not only Earth but with the cosmos.

We highly recommend the work of several individuals whose work with Nature has given them widespread recognition. The first is Michaelle Small Wright, who lives and works at Perelandra, (link) http://www.perelandra-ltd.com/ a small farm in Virginia where she works in partnership with Nature to produce a system of rebalancing human health through a variety of remedies and processes. Wright suggests imagining what we could accomplish if we teamed up with the greatest authority in the field of balance — nature — to help us personally make the best decisions for improving our lives and our planet. “Imagine,” she says, “what it would be like if individual scientists not only made discoveries that could unravel the environmental mess we have created but also made new discoveries that didn't add to or perpetuate the problems.”

The second source is The Ringing Cedars of Russia, a series of books about a Siberian woman named Anastasia, reveal profound wisdom grounded in ancient knowledge, expose suppressed secrets and hidden historical facts and offer a whole new paradigm for our planet's future. They contain ideas about the education of children, spirituality, sexual relations, nutrition and health and the importance of communicating with living Nature. More than 10 million copies of these books, now in more than 20 languages, have been sold around the world.

Building New Social Structures

According to David Korten in the March/April 2009 issue of Tikkun magazine  on Remaking America, the largest collective issue facing humanity is related to a materialistic lifestyle based on over-consumption that causes environmental, economic, political, social and governmental problems. The bottom line in changing this lifestyle seems rooted in a spiritual dilemma of “which master do we serve?” This dilemma is obvious in the well-known scripture verse from the Sermon on the Mount:

No one can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and Mammon (Matthew 6:24)

Mammon refers to wealth as an object of worship; the worship of false god; a form of demonic possession; an evil fore in opposition to the God of Life.

Korten says that, as a species, are at an evolutionary crossroad. We can create social structures that are based on the worship of money and the pursuit of individual greed or ones that are devoted to the service of life. This, says Korten, is a choice that must be made as a society, a community, and as a collective body (p. 35).

Conclusion

We personally do not have a program, approach or protocol that we are recommending for building a new civilization. Our goal is to inspire, to provoke and to encourage people to think about the kind of future they want, to dream together in groups and to begin taking action in some meaningful way. Most of all, we support the idea that all the breakdown we see in the world around us as a giant, even epic, opportunity for humanity to fully flower . . . to fulfill it’s God-given potential as a co-creator of life.

Social breakdown is not caused by a specific disaster, but arises out of the actions of individual people who are experience traumatic breakdowns related to social, economic and political crises. In October 2008 group of Kuwaiti equity traders marched on the emir’s office to demand the closing of the stock exchange to stem losses. A similar thing happened in Greece in late 2008 when riots sparked by the police shooting of a teenager, became tinged with economic dissension. In February 2009 riots in Ireland threatened to close the banks. The economic collapse of Iceland may presage civil disruptions there, as job losses multiply and credit bills come due.

During times of social crisis even governments can be stressed beyond their breaking-point. The chaos that ensued in New Orleans in the absence of an effective federal response in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina is one such example in this country. In such troubled times, people are forced to fend for themselves and their families, by any means necessary. Reports from New Orleans about the breakdown of the civil society and the implementation of martial law clearly revealed that the psyche of Americans may be more fragile than anticipated.

Ecologically, Earth is experiencing major extinction events in its ecosystem, such as the disappearance of many amphibian species due to the discovery of immense dead zones in the Gulf of Mexico. This is happening well before scientists anticipated, validating that we are in the midst of the long prophesied shift of 2012.

At the same time, there are signs of breakthrough and awaking appearing at an even more incredible rate, including new forms of energy—hydrogen, magnetic and plasma—and humanity’s ability to use catastrophic events such as 9/11, Hurricane Katrina and economic instability to open individual’s hearts. Call it restructuring, or rewiring or illumination— many people are reporting feeling tired, having migrane headaches and flu-like symptoms, electrical sensations in their limbs and spine and increased sensitivity to energy and phenomena such as sunspots.

We believe that Earth and humanity are poised at the brink of a quantum leap in evolution. This event can be experienced as truly wonderful for those who have prepared. Those who are not prepared may experience it quite differently.

Catastrophes are often the result of failing to prepare for an anticipated event.The impact of Hurricane Katrina on New Orleans is an excellent example. Local, state and national officials were all aware that Lake Ponchartrain levees were at risk if exposed to tidal surges from a hurricane.

The FBI, which began warning of an "epidemic" of mortgage fraud in September 2004, also knew that lenders were initiating 80% of these frauds.¹ Their report of epidemic of mortgage control fraud came at such an early point that the financial crisis could have been averted had the Bush administration acted with even minimal competence. To learn about the sequence of events that led to the US economic crisis (that has now spread to global proportions), see the documentary, House of Cards. Americans who were caught up in the frenzy of both the housing bubble and the financial bubble were totally unprepared to cope with the fallout of being overly indebted in a declining economy.

The same can be about preparedness for other kinds of potential disasters. While it is not possible to prevent hurricanes and other environmental events associated with climactic changes, it is possible to prepare for them.

The consequences of a lack of preparedness for anticipated events are a wake-up call indicating the need for another kind of preparedness: shifts in the collective consciousness of humanity. The cosmic events now being triggered by the waves of energy from Galactic Center are changing not only the physical structure of Earth, but the consciousness of humanity. These interlocking phenomena demonstrate the need to begin building the structures for a new civilization.

The dimensional veils have been thinning during the past 50 years, creating a new opening of the Earth to extraterrestrial visitors. Soon we all will be experiencing a reunion with our star brothers and sisters that will require skills in Exopolitics—the establishment of formal diplomatic relations with extraterrestrial civilizations. While there still may be some chaos due to both personal and Earth changes, it may not be as intense if people prepare for them both physically and spiritually. 

Visioning A New Civilization

While part of the challenge in building a new civilization must focus on staying calm and safe during rapid social, economic, political and climate-related changes, the real challenge is spiritual: how do we individually and collectively respond to these changes with kindness and compassion? As the old breaks down, how do we build new social, economic, political and spiritual structures that are in alignment with this new consciousness? Those who understand the complexity of the changes upon us recognize that what appears to be death and the devastation may actually be first step in the birth of new social, economic, political and religious structures.

There are many advanced souls present on Earth who have incarnated specifically to facilitate this higher dimensional shift. They, particularly the children, feel called to build a kinder and more compassionate world that reunites us with the Earth. These souls are working to birth their new consciousness, which will change their fundamental relationship with the Earth and each other during the time of this dimensional shift.

Children As the Future

Conscious conception, non-violent birthing and enlightened child-rearing practices are critical steps in building a civilization that is able to manifest its God-given potential. We believe that children conceived, birthed and parented in a trauma-free environment become healthy, intelligent, productive and joy-filled people who retain their multidimensional capabilities. The children have he capacity to create much brighter and lighter world than the one currently breaking down.

In the early development of children, around the age of three to four years, they have a natural desire to bond with the Earth.  During this period, they love walking barefoot in the grass and dirt and examining insects and the small life that lives there. This is also the ideal time to introduce them to gardening, growing things and interacting with animals. Here they learn to respect life and to learn cause-and-effect thinking. As children mature they also have a strong desire to participate in family and community life, particularly the discussion of life’s big questions involving values, moral quandaries and decision making; issues of justice and expressing respect, empathy and compassion.

As children get older they are ready to experience opportunities to be of service, which help them learn the connections between spirituality, ethical interpersonal interactions and social activism. These opportunities expose them to the practice of philosophies based on doing good deeds and loving acts of kindness.

Reconnecting With the Earth

Energetic exchanges of unconditional love between humans and between humans and animals, plants, minerals, and the Earth create shared experiences of deep resonance. Most people recognize that spending time in Nature has a therapeutic effect on their mood, their nervous system and their outlook. Outdoors activities such as hiking, gardening, biking, skiing, running, fishing help ground our bodies and quiet our minds. Quiet activities such as sitting in nature, listening to birds, watching the clouds move, star-gazing, full-moon meditations also help us attune with not only Earth but with the cosmos.

We highly recommend the work of several individuals whose work with Nature has given them widespread recognition. The first is Michaelle Small Wright, who lives and works at Perelandra, (link) http://www.perelandra-ltd.com/ a small farm in Virginia where she works in partnership with Nature to produce a system of rebalancing human health through a variety of remedies and processes. Wright suggests imagining what we could accomplish if we teamed up with the greatest authority in the field of balance — nature — to help us personally make the best decisions for improving our lives and our planet. “Imagine,” she says, “what it would be like if individual scientists not only made discoveries that could unravel the environmental mess we have created but also made new discoveries that didn't add to or perpetuate the problems.”

The second source is The Ringing Cedars of Russia, a series of books about a Siberian woman named Anastasia, reveal profound wisdom grounded in ancient knowledge, expose suppressed secrets and hidden historical facts and offer a whole new paradigm for our planet's future. They contain ideas about the education of children, spirituality, sexual relations, nutrition and health and the importance of communicating with living Nature. More than 10 million copies of these books, now in more than 20 languages, have been sold around the world.

Building New Social Structures

According to David Korten in the March/April 2009 issue of Tikkun magazine  on Remaking America, the largest collective issue facing humanity is related to a materialistic lifestyle based on over-consumption that causes environmental, economic, political, social and governmental problems. The bottom line in changing this lifestyle seems rooted in a spiritual dilemma of “which master do we serve?” This dilemma is obvious in the well-known scripture verse from the Sermon on the Mount:

No one can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and Mammon (Matthew 6:24)

Mammon refers to wealth as an object of worship; the worship of false god; a form of demonic possession; an evil fore in opposition to the God of Life.

Korten says that, as a species, are at an evolutionary crossroad. We can create social structures that are based on the worship of money and the pursuit of individual greed or ones that are devoted to the service of life. This, says Korten, is a choice that must be made as a society, a community, and as a collective body (p. 35).

Conclusion

We personally do not have a program, approach or protocol that we are recommending for building a new civilization. Our goal is to inspire, to provoke and to encourage people to think about the kind of future they want, to dream together in groups and to begin taking action in some meaningful way. Most of all, we support the idea that all the breakdown we see in the world around us as a giant, even epic, opportunity for humanity to fully flower . . . to fulfill it’s God-given potential as a co-creator of life.

Kindness Campaign

The Kindness Campaign ™

A Project of the Carolina Institute For Conflict Resolution and Creative Leadership

The motto of The Kindness Campaign is "Spread Kindness -- It's Contagious." © Its goals are (1) to restore a sense of community and neighborliness that we seem to have forgotten and (2) to prevent the spread of violence that has taken hold in many parts of our community, state and nation. Spreading kindness is up to everyone and it can be fun and rewarding. You can participate in this Campaign to stop the spread of violence, hatred and unkindness. You just have to remember to do some small daily acts of kindness for yourself, your family, friends, neighbors, school mates, work mates, strangers, those who are sick or in need, and anyone else you meet.

The Kind and Safe Schools Initiative (KASSI), the school portion of the Kindness Campaign, was created in 2001 to combat the alarming increase in the rate of peer violence in schools. Research on the intervention strategies in KASSI has showed them to be very effective in significantly reducing peer violence in schools. There is additional information is available below on KASSI including some of the research findings. The three KASSI Manuals are available for sale to schools from the Bookstore on this website.

This Campaign reconfirms the important understanding that we are all interconnected. We all have a duty to act kindly towards ourselves as well as others. The attitude of kindness has to start with being kind to your self. It is difficult to be kind to others, if your heart is empty of kindness. True kindness comes from having a compassionate heart. It takes countless small daily acts of kindness to create an atmosphere of compassion necessary to transform a mass of separate individuals into a kind, caring community.

The Kindness Campaign provides simple recognition for daily acts of kindness. Many acts of kindness go unrecognized, while acts of violence are quickly recognized and maybe even are over-recognized by the media. If you want to eliminate violence, you have to place your attention on its opposite: kindness. By signing a pledge card you get a button that says, "Spread Kindness -- It's Contagious," and when you witness an act of kindness, give that person your button to recognize what they did and ask them to pass on the button when they witness another act of kindness. In this way, you can spread kindness and help build a kind, caring community.

KASSI has operated in over 700 schools and communities nationwide. Some of these schools experienced an immediate 30% drop in discipline referrals and a drop of 90% in put-downs after they started the Campaign. Churches created Interfaith Celebrations of Kindness to mark the presence of kindness in all religious traditions. Neighborhood organizations promoted kind acts among the residents of their neighborhoods. Small and large businesses received kindness awards for promoting kindness among their employees and customers. Some companies sponsored the Campaign in schools. Individuals who helped promote a community of kindness received special recognition. Children participated in art contests around the theme of kindness and peace.

Click Here for Bookstore with Kindness Campaign Materials...

In this Section

:: Take our School Bullying Survey
:: A Kind & Safe School Quiz for Parents
:: How to Create a Kind & Safe School
:: Bullying Prevention Policy
:: "Rush To Judgment" Play Examines Cause of Columbine Tragedy
:: The Kindness Campaign in Asheville
:: The Kindness Campaign in America
:: Why I Created the Kindness Campaign
:: Kindness Campaign Success Indicators

:: Kindness Campaign Publications - This section contains detailed information regarding the Kindness Campaign Publications including an archive of past newsletters for download.

How You Can Contribute to The Kindness Campaign:
The Kindness Campaign are supported by contributions from organizations, businesses or individuals and do not receive any funds from CICRCL. If you wish to make a tax-deductible contribution to The Kindness Campaign, please make your check payable to CICRCL and designate it for The Kindness Campaign. For further information about the Kindness Campaign write to:

The Kindness Campaign
C/O Barry K. Weinhold
117 Lady Slipper Trail
Swannanoa, NC 28778

Phone: 828.686-1890; Email: cicrcl@weinholds.org

The following are some suggestions of how you might spread kindness:
• Make a list of things that you can do to bring more kindness to your self, your family, neighborhood, school, workplace or community.
• Put your shopping cart back in its appointed space in the parking lot.
• As you walk through your neighborhood, pick up any trash on the sidewalk or gutter.
• Send a letter to a teacher or minister letting them know what a difference their acts of kindness made in your life.
• Make an anonymous donation to a local charity that is actively helping young people or start a fund-raising drive in your office for such organizations.
• Organize your friends or work mates to gather used clothing and give it to homeless shelters.
• Ask your children to go through their toys and donate some of them to children who are less fortunate.
• Offer to baby-sit for a neighbor's children so they can take a break from parenting.
• When someone new moves into your neighborhood, bake some cookies and go over and welcome them to the neighborhood.